Rediscovering Joy Together: Building Holiday Rituals That Strengthen Your Relationship

Why Rituals Matter

Last week, we talked about staying connected through difficult emotions. This week, we’ll focus on rediscovering joy. The Gottman Method emphasizes the power of shared meaning, the small rituals that remind us who we are and what we value as a couple or family.

Rituals don’t have to be elaborate. They’re the daily and seasonal moments that give your relationship rhythm and safety. Think: morning coffee together before the chaos, a gratitude jar, or taking a walk after dinner to look at lights.

Creating New Traditions That Reflect You

Sometimes old traditions don’t fit your life anymore and that’s okay. Building new ones can be an act of healing and connection.
Ask each other:

“What made past holidays meaningful for you?”
“What do we want to carry forward, and what can we release?”

Choose one simple ritual that feels authentic like decorating together while sharing memories, writing gratitude notes, or lighting a candle each evening for reflection.

The Science Behind Shared Meaning

Research shows that couples and families who intentionally create shared meaning report stronger bonds and lower stress. Rituals help us slow down, connect emotionally, and feel part of something larger than ourselves.

Carrying Joy Forward

As you create new rituals this season, focus less on perfection and more on presence. Connection grows in the small, intentional acts you do together.

Let’s help you rediscover joy this season. Schedule a session or explore our Gottman-based couples therapy to deepen your connection.